A Solid Commitment

There’s something about having a partnership that sees all of you.

Not just what you think you want to see in each other.

The other side, the shadow side, the hurt, the pain, the trauma cycles, the generational behaviour, the self destruction, the reasonings behind actions.

I choose to see it all, without judgement.

It doesn’t mean I condone or want the behaviour in my life, But I choose to see it for what it is and hope to support and assist ways for that person to heal.

I’m committed in my relationships and respond in ways that allows all of this to come through, the good, the bad and the ugly.

I don’t ask to suppress it , cover it up or invalidate it.

Because I don’t expect that from myself.

I choose to hear it, feel it, learn from it, transcend it, let it go and give space for growth and eventually make decisions to better my responses, approaches and perspective.

Asking for truths within a relationship is reasonable and even though doing this is challenging because sometimes certain truths hurt, I’m committed to supporting my relationship with the authenticity it deserves.

It helps us grow. It helps us expand.

To see the whole picture, rather than just what I want to see or hear.

As my own mother would say “switch your blinkers off”. Have a look around.

Because of this frame of mind and what I have chosen to expand within myself and my relationships, for example, my relationship with my husband has never been so solid because of it.

It gets stronger, it creates stability and ultimately it reinforces trust.

Over the years through my healing experiences and since having my children, I’ve learnt how to navigate my relationship with my husband in a loving and compassionate way.

It taken time and certain challenges to achieve this but we got there.

I no longer see him for what his done in the past or try to preempt what I think his planning to do, I assess and ask questions and get him to authentically express himself when life feels unbalanced and off centre for both him or me.

I’m not here to stand in his way, I’m here to let him be himself, help guide him with compassion when he needs it and continue to watch him grow into the person I know he truly is.

And who he is, is a loving soul that only wants to be loved, heard and seen in return.

Like EVERY other being on this earth.

I choose to see all of it and there is nothing more loving than that.

With this knowledge and wisdom brings the ultimate authentic foundation to any relationship.

What are you choosing to see in your relationships?

Can you hold space for all of it?

Is it time to reflect on yourself and your environment/social circles/family dynamics/ love interest?

What are you pulling towards?

Peace or destruction?

Love or continued heart ache?

Have the courage to listen.

It might just help yourself heal and make better observations about yourself and how you see others and to help them heal too.

Happy Sunday ✨

Felicia